Crossroad

Guess life is really a road marked by crossroads. It's not the long and winding stretches that will hurt us the most. It's the crossroads. We make a bad choice and it's a tumble and a rumble before we get back on our feet again. But we'll get back on our feet. We'll find ourselves. And then we’ll be off to our next adventure; Crossroads, I mean. Every journey taken always includes the path not taken, the detour through hell, the crossroads of indecision and the long way home.

Very often in our lives we find ourselves standing at a major crossroad where have to make an important choice. It is at these crucial junctions that we need to make important decisions about matters that might have far reaching consequences in our journey and a long-lasting effect in our lives. I’m not talking about simple choices such as a car purchase or figuring out your weekend plans. I’m referring to the bigger decisions such as whether should marry or re-locate to another country, or switch careers. It comes as no surprise that these choices often cause a lot of anxiety. On a deeper level, we know that there is a lot at stake. Making the right decision can really pay off in the most rewarding ways, but what if it is the wrong choice? Things could get messy and we will be filled with regret.

These crossroads teach us a lot of lessons and give us a lot of experiences—both good and bad. They make us meet a lot of people of different kinds. We will have to forget what hurt us in the past, but never forget what they taught us. However, if they taught us to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with our feelings then we didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring us lessons to close our hearts. He brings us lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought us perfect people, how would we ever learn to spiritually evolve? How would we ever get strength to cross this cross road finding the right path?

These cross roads make us question a lot many things. What if I were wrong? What if everything I ever believed was a lie? What if I miss my opportunity because I didn't know my worth? What if I settle on familiar, but God is trying to give me something better? What if I decide not to go backwards, but forward? What if doing what I have never done before is the answer to everything that didn't make sense? What if the answer isn't to be found in words, but in action? What if I find the courage to do what I really want to do and doing it change my whole life? Oh… let me stop here.

I think life’s plans are not always tied up in neat little packages. Occasionally we find ourselves at unexpected crossroads with more than one opportunity from which to choose. Time itself is often the best indicator of which decision to make, for it can tell so many things that are now hazy. Till then, let me remain questioning listening, understanding and evolving.

But….

Oh… I am confused… What are the answers to all my questions ? 



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